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Question: Why do some people appear to think that LGBTQ+ people are different, when we are all people at heart?
Answer: It may seem this way, but it’s the not the truth of the situation. When you feel this way, it might help to keep this in mind: We are all inextricably connected.
You and I were formed out of the same basic elements and the same Life Energy. Literally, we were created from star dust that was energized by the unexplainable “Beingness” that is you and me.
We started from nothing and came into being through the multiplication of cells, from 2 to 4 to 8 to…trillions. A Life Energy infused these cells as they multiplied. We are both science and mystery.
We can sense each other’s energy. We can “feel” each other’s pain. We can share love and laughter. We can be the sacred witness to each other’s path. We can cry and sob and weep. Best of all, we can Be.
Remember, we are all connected…and at some point we will all leave form and go back into star dust, returning to unity with all that is.
Is it possible you needed to hear this today?
Question: Why is it that a lot of nonbinary people don’t like the terms boy or girl? Thanks for helping me to understand, because I have a nonbinary sibling.
Answer: Because everyone’s experience is unique, I definitely can’t answer this question for all nonbinary people. However, for me being nonbinary means that neither the identity “girl” or “boy” (“woman” or “man”) feels like a complete fit.
Both gender labels feel incomplete, even inaccurate. The people who understand me best understand that on some level, I experience life as both—and in my case, live and am perceived by others that way too. I think of myself as both, beyond and in-between, which you can learn about here.
Also, there’s a myriad of assumptions about a person’s experiences that get assigned along with the gender labels of “girl” or “boy”. That’s another reason why the terms don’t sit well with many nonbinary people. For me, the gender assumptions people make rarely hold true for my life experience.
Finally, other language components such as pronouns (she/her vs. he/him) tend to follow a girl or boy assignment. So do terms of endearment, such as “dear” or “sweetheart” vs. “dude” or “bro”, for example. This has always frustrated me too.
I hope these insights help and congrats on expanding your understanding to better connect your nonbinary sibling. If you’re ready for even more on this topic, then check out this article next. Good luck!